
Elder Meetings: Distinctive Rules for Discussion
May 29, 2008Talking to some members, it appears that there is some interest in finding out a bit more about the work of the Elders. So let this be the first of some random snapshots of elder council background.
About ten years ago the elders adopted three simple “rules” that might, at first, seem to be a bit simplistic. Simple or not they have had significant impact on our decision making. Any participant can appeal to these rules any time in a meeting.
- The “5 minute rule“. No new idea may be “shot down” until it has had at least 5 minutes to live. This helps to stimulate positive, creative discussion. “Let it live” is often heard when a new idea seems to be taking immediate criticism. I can’t say that the majority of ideas make it to minute six, but at least they have a chance to be heard.
- The “they rule“. Names or specifics are to be used when communicating information from others. “They say,” “Lot’s of people say,” “everyone says” etc, are not acceptable. Sometimes “everyone” is in actuality a very small group. It is not uncommon for staff or elders to ask something like, “who specifically has made those statements?”
- “Talking after the fact” is non-productive and should only be done if new facts come to light.In other words, once a decision is made we consider it made. There is nothing productive in continuing to go back and rehash issues and decisions without good reason.
They say that these rules have had great impact on the effectiveness of many discussions over the past years.